Rate your first 3 dates with a new person (or even a video chat) to reflect with clarity. Shift from “Do they like me?” to “Do I like them — and do they align with what I’m looking for?”
Rate each from 1 (lowest) to 10 (highest) after each date.
| Quality | Date 1 | Date 2 | Date 3 |
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Leave a date blank until it happens — scores only count dates you’ve rated.
Rate 1–10 how true each statement felt on each date. Butterflies can be excitement — or anxiety. Safety is the difference between chemistry and alarm bells.
| I felt… | Date 1 | Date 2 | Date 3 |
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If chemistry is high but safety is low, that intensity may be your nervous system on alert — not love.
Based on what you know so far, rank this person 1–10 in each area. Skip any you haven’t learned about yet. These average into your Compatibility score.
Name three feelings per date. Check the box if a feeling matches the Core Feelings in your Ideal Partner Preferences.
Check everything that applies in the hours after each date. Our nervous systems often tell the truth after the date.
Did this person demonstrate them?
| Fundamental / Value | Demonstrated? |
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Are they actually available for a real relationship? Answer only what you’ve observed so far — leave the rest blank. Each “No” is treated like a medium-concern flag in your score.
| Behavior | Observed? |
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Non-negotiable behaviors or attitudes that make someone incompatible with you.
| Deal breaker | Status |
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Anything that gave you pause (e.g., “talked too much about themselves”). Rate your level of concern.
| Red flag | Concern |
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What did I learn about myself from these dates?
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